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UNSEPARATE STORIES – SHARED REALITIES, UNEVENLY FELT
Different Decks, Same Boat

by Scribe Diva Ink

In the first reflection, we acknowledged a simple truth. We are all in the same boat. Not because our experiences are identical. But because the conditions shaping our lives are shared, even if they are not equally felt. And, where we stand changes what we see.
It does not change what exists. Some people do not notice a thing until it affects them.

This is not cruelty. It is human nature.

Awareness often follows proximity. The problem is not that awareness arrives late. The problem is when late awareness ignores its lateness. When late awareness disappears once the water recedes. When late awareness prioritizes its awareness over historical facts. There is a difference between seeing and assuming. There is also a difference between comfort and safety.

Your vantage point is not the whole picture. Do not assume you are safe simply because the water has not reached your feet. If the water is able to take over the boat, the entire boat sinks, regardless of the deck one stands on.

History offers many moments where concern rises with proximity, and quietly recedes with ‘normality.’ A 43-year-old African American father of two was killed by an off-duty ICE agent New Years Eve 2025. Renee Nicole Good and Alex Pretti, both killed Jan 2026.

This pattern is not new. Only the names and dates change.

Imagine when Jane Elliott said something to the fact that “If you, as a white person, would not willingly trade places with a Black person in this society, then you already know there is a problem.” When you stand on higher ground, the flood looks distant. When you stand in it, the current feels immediate. Now we are trading places, albeit involuntary. Both perceptions are real. Both perceptions were always real. However, only one touched the full condition for a time. In this very moment perspectives for some have changed. The point is conditions have not. Things have always been this way.

We often mistake personal calm for collective stability. We assume that because our routines remain intact, the structure holding them must be sound. But stability is not always evidence of safety.

When the World Trade Center was bombed, no one focused only on the proximity of the Trade Center. The entire city was evacuated. Airports were locked down, etc. The danger was real and no one needed to be in the World Trade Center or near it to recognize it and do something about it. Nor did they have to die in it to arrive at solidarity. People saw a thing and refused to ignore it.

This is not a comparison of tragedies. It is an observation about collective recognition.

Are we ignoring evidence due to distance?

Late awareness is not useless because it is still awareness. But it must be honest about its timing. And, what we continue to notice after the moment passes often matters more than what we notice in the moment itself.

Seeing something for the first time does not make it new. It only makes it newly visible to you. Seeing something from a distance doesn’t mean one is out of harm’s way. It only means you survived. This time. Threat and danger still remained.

Again, there is no shame in recognizing a reality late. The danger lies in denying it once it becomes clear, or abandoning concern when the water dries at your feet. Hearing the leak is not the same as feeling the water. But both are signals that something beneath the surface demands attention. Like we did for the World Trade Center, pay attention.

This is not about blame. It is about orientation. This is about fallout.

Just because you are in a different part of the mess does not mean you are outside the mess. The goal is not to create alarm. The goal is to create clarity. Clarity does not accuse.
Clarity reveals. When we understand that our view is shaped by where we stand, we become less certain of our conclusions and more open to the fuller truth. Comfort is not immunity. Distance is not exemption. And awareness arriving late still has value if it arrives honestly and remains present when circumstances shift.

We move forward best not when everyone agrees, but when everyone sees more clearly.

Perspective changes. Physics does not.

And the water does not disappear simply because some of us are not touching it yet or are not getting wet.